A Decade and a Half in the Making

As you know, we’re in Mexico right now. This was written last week and is being automatically posted. I probably won’t be back online until the end of the year, so comment moderation will have to wait until then. I hope everyone is having a good holidays.


Caitlin and I are now in our fifteenth year together.

Way back in 1994 I walked into Stainless Studios — this is before I worked there — and she was working the counter. I had a huge instant crush on her, and from that point on our lives moved in parallel. I started working with her, as a jeweler, and like a puppy bringing their catch to their master, I made her jewelry after jewelry, including a spiral ring that she wears to this day. I got to know her as a talented, creative, and funny dream-girl and muse that I admire, respect, and Love to the bottom of my heart. She inspires me to create and to be the best I can be, and she makes me dream of the future and desire to improve it and live it with her.

We’ve had a few bumps and scrapes along the way, but they’ve never dulled our love and for most of these fifteen years we’ve been close friends, and often more — for the last two years, much more. I’ve gone through a lot in the last two years — medical difficulties and a trying legal dispute. Without her loving support it would have been hellish, but with my life so full of love, I felt like nothing could hurt me, and I still feel that way. A constant euphoria fills me when I think of Caitlin and the family that we have here — as well as being the perfect partner for me, Caitlin is a wonderful “step-mom”. I would never invite someone into my life if I didn’t feel they were as good a fit for Nefarious as they are for me, and Caitlin is caring, warm, and understanding with both of us.

As I’m sure you’ve guessed by now, today in Mexico I’m going to be proposing to her… It’s something I’ll only get to do once in my life, so I want to succeed in having it be an ideal romantic memory. I chose one of my favorite places in the world — one that I think she’ll like as well — and am going to tell her how I feel, get down on one knee, and pop the question… For real. Wish me luck!

Picking out an engagement ring is pretty nerve-wracking… it’s something you really want to get right. I knew I wanted something special and unique, and I knew that Caitlin is far too exotic for anything I could easily find in a store. Because I knew she liked their work, I went to Deadringer and commissioned them to make me a custom Armageddon ring, with a pair of citrines set into the eye sockets — they look amazing contrasted against the shadow patina. The inside is engraved with “1COR13” (a love-themed tattoo that we’ve shared for a decade), and a part of my head tattoo (meant to say “you’re always on my mind”). It’s really beautiful — the pictures don’t do it justice.


So, when I return, I hope it will be with my fiancé.

I Love Caitlin and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.


  1. Ego Kornus wrote:

    Well both of you, i guess everything went out well, Congrats.

    Saturday, December 27, 2008 at 6:10 am | Permalink
  2. Anselm wrote:

    Best of luck! I’ve never met you, but somehow this makes me happier than several engagements I’ve heard about from people I know face-to-face. You and your projects have had a profound and positive impact on my life, and I hope you find immeasurable quantities of pure joy.


    Saturday, December 27, 2008 at 1:52 pm | Permalink
  3. dresden wrote:

    Congrats man! I hope all is going awesome.

    Saturday, December 27, 2008 at 5:04 pm | Permalink
  4. Congratulations Shannon and Caitin, all the best.

    Saturday, December 27, 2008 at 5:05 pm | Permalink
  5. Gemma wrote:


    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 4:25 am | Permalink
  6. angela wrote:

    congrats & good luck!

    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 7:08 am | Permalink
  7. 1 Corinthians 13? *nods head*
    Congratulations hon, I wish you the most perfect day ever. Good luck, not that you’ll need it. <3

    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 2:13 pm | Permalink
  8. Allahkat wrote:


    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 3:32 pm | Permalink
  9. candace wrote:


    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 3:44 pm | Permalink
  10. Metalheart wrote:

    thats beautiful, Im really happy for you man!

    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 4:56 pm | Permalink
  11. Ghobian wrote:

    Yay! Good luck! That ring is wonderful :)

    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 5:33 pm | Permalink
  12. kent wrote:

    All the best to you both for many many years.

    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 6:18 pm | Permalink
  13. estrojenn wrote:

    it’s pretty funny that some people post congratulations on this page, and then go and say the exact opposite in other places. weird.

    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 8:27 pm | Permalink
  14. Surinder wrote:

    Congratulations! :)

    Sunday, December 28, 2008 at 9:34 pm | Permalink
  15. Allahkat wrote:

    Okay that sounded juicy. Sorry, but it did.
    And seroiusly, for anyone hating, you can fuck right off. Caitlin was there before, and after anyone else. And she has gone through a lot of hell to be with Shannon so just let them be happy; because they will be whether you’re trying to give them grief or not.
    They are meant for each other. The end.

    Monday, December 29, 2008 at 4:41 am | Permalink
  16. Nicole wrote:

    I just want them to hurry up and get pregnant already!

    Monday, December 29, 2008 at 7:09 am | Permalink
  17. estrojenn wrote:

    not juicy. just stupid and typical. i agree…get preggers caitlin!!

    Monday, December 29, 2008 at 8:50 am | Permalink
  18. Brenda wrote:

    Congrats!!! I wish you both happiness through all your days together!

    Monday, December 29, 2008 at 12:06 pm | Permalink
  19. Ashley wrote:


    :D :D :D

    Monday, December 29, 2008 at 2:42 pm | Permalink
  20. Joan wrote:

    Thank god it’s out Shannon, it was killing me..I HAD to tell Nicole at xmas dinner once I knew you were gone..I’m so happy you two finally get the happy ending you both deserve, and Nefarious is gonna be thrilled <3
    Love to you both

    Monday, December 29, 2008 at 3:44 pm | Permalink
  21. skip wrote:


    Tuesday, December 30, 2008 at 7:25 am | Permalink
  22. LotN wrote:

    Best wishes to all three of you. And congratulations!…

    Tuesday, December 30, 2008 at 8:54 am | Permalink
  23. peteD3 wrote:

    Good luck and Congratulations!!

    Tuesday, December 30, 2008 at 12:22 pm | Permalink
  24. jenna wrote:

    I am so happy for you both! This news made my week. =D

    Tuesday, December 30, 2008 at 5:02 pm | Permalink
  25. Caitlin wrote:

    I said yes. How could I resist?

    Tuesday, December 30, 2008 at 6:24 pm | Permalink
  26. Gillian wrote:


    Tuesday, December 30, 2008 at 6:41 pm | Permalink
  27. Erica wrote:

    15 years? Man, you’re a pretty crappy boyfriend for knocking up another chick while you’re dating ;)

    Wednesday, December 31, 2008 at 1:03 pm | Permalink
  28. Richard Larratt wrote:


    thank you for stating the self-evident

    as is often not understood
    the black and the white
    is usually grey

    It cost John McCain the presidency twice

    and from everything I have read
    his wife has forgiven him
    not that forgiveness was ever ask – real life is grey –

    a reason we must always do as again and again I saw shannon’s grandfather do –

    but never should we doubt that while most of us are all mixed up a bit good and a bit bad

    there walks among us

    pure evil

    and if you ever have that vampire down

    the stake the stake

    thru the heart

    because if you don’t

    the vampire will be back
    when you were thinking

    move on

    pure evil

    thank heavens as rare but
    there is case of pure god

    one man end’s the british empire

    what was his name

    Friday, January 2, 2009 at 12:52 pm | Permalink
  29. Richard Larratt wrote:



    Friday, January 2, 2009 at 12:55 pm | Permalink

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